The Law of Growth


Sitting here writing this today, I can happily say that I have an experiential understanding of this law.

I know that if I use the tools at my disposal, I am able to change myself, my attitudes, patterns, behaviours and limiting belief systems, and as a result, my life changes.

Before I decided to start changing myself, my life was a mess. I drank every day, usually to oblivion, or at least enough to pass out and blot out what remained of life. I was bored. Sad. Lonely. Desperately unhappy.  I tried to do what I could to pass the time, hoping against hope that life wouldn’t be too long. Or that somehow it would magically improve. That I would be given all of the things that I wanted: a loving relationship, a meaningful career, a connected social network with friends and family.

I had quietly drifted into alcoholism without noticing it happen. My relationships were either toxic and complicated or painfully superficial, and nothing I tried to do to change it seemed to work. I moved jobs, I moved country, I changed my friends, I changed my hair and my clothes. I tried to change everything except myself.

I remember once moving to an eco-village in Spain, thinking that this would solve the problem (the problem obviously being London, my messed up friends, the availability of Class-As, the fact that I lived above a pub, etc., etc.), but my problems remained: “wherever you go, there you are.” I thought that I could leave my old self behind, but I always brought myself with me.

What I did not know at the time, is that for our lives to improve (and for us to grow in Spirit), it is we who must change, and not the people, places or things around us.

When I made a decision to change, I was given the opportunity to take a hard look at my patterns and behaviours, to identify what elements of my character I wanted to keep, and which ones were ‘unsalable’. I was taught that the only given we have in our lives is ourselves, and that is the only factor we have control over, everything else is wholly outside of our control and day by day, I was able to change who I was.

When we change who and what we are within our hearts, our lives follow suit and change too. Today, I have all of the things that I so desperately wanted. I am able to love myself enough to allow myself to give and receive love in a healthy relationship. I have changed careers and am able to use my experience to help people with their challenges and pain. I have a group of friends, fellows and family that I am intimately connected with, and I am able to be of service to others in my community.

When we change ourselves, we give ourselves the opportunity to enjoy life fully.

If you are struggling in life, if you feel bored, listless, or if you feel like everyone is against you, like you just can’t catch a break, why not consider changing yourself?


The 12 laws of Karma:

1. The Great Law

Whatever we put into the universe will come back to us.

2. The Law of Creation

Life doesn’t just happen. It requires our participation.

3. The Law of Humility

One must accept something in order to change it.

4. The Law of Growth

When we change ourselves, our lives follow suit and change too.

5. The Law of Responsibility

Whenever there is something wrong in my life, there is something wrong in me.

6. The Law of Connection

Past, Present and Future are all connected.

7. The Law of Focus

You cannot think of two things at the same time.

8. The Law of Giving and Hospitality

Our behaviour should match our thoughts and actions.

9. The Law of Here and Now

Looking backward to examine what was or forward to worry about the future prevents us from being totally in the here and now.

10. The Law of Change

History repeats itself until we learn the lessons that we need to change our path.

11. The Law of Patience and Reward

True joy comes from doing what we’re supposed to be doing, and knowing that the reward will come in its own time.

12. The Law of Significance and Inspiration

The true value of something is a direct result of the energy and intent that is put into it.

Nadine Cameron Ward